• HOW TO DEAL WITH CONFLICT IN FRIENDSHIPS

    1. Calm down. Nobody thinks rationally when they are emotionally worked up. Give yourself time to calm down before even thinking of the subject of the conflict again.

    2. Show each other respect. Without first respecting your friend, it is unlikely that the conflict will be resolved amicably.

    3. Give each other space. When the conflict has become too heated, walk away.

    4. Give each other time. Time to cool off will help everyone involved think things over in a rational manner.

    5. Respect each other's space and time. Everybody is different. Your friend may need a week before he/she is ready to resolve the conflict and you may need only a day. Give them the time they need.

    6. Communicate. Not talking only makes matters worse. Periodically contact your friend to let them know that you still care about them if you wish to continue the relationship.

    7. Listen. Listen intently and focus on their point of view with an open mind.

    8. Choose your words wisely. Avoid accusatory phrases like "you never," "you always” or "why would you?"

    9. Leave out the "but." When your friend asks if you accept their apology don't say "yes, but..." It's a conditional acceptance and can lead to more hurt feelings. The same goes for "I understand,  but...”

    10. Let it go. If you can't find common ground, agree to disagree and let it go. Nothing good will come out of the conflict if you don't.

    REAL FRIENDSHIP

    Real friends like you for who you are.  They respect your opinions and believe in your dreams.  They don’t judge you by your appearance, or popularity. They know all the little details about you and still like you anyway.  Real friends are there to celebrate the happy days and to console you through the not-so-happy days.  Real friends laugh with you and cry with you and feel for you when you don’t feel much like feeling.

    Not everyone who comes and goes in your life will prove to be a real friend.  Some people may seem that way for a bit, but when the going gets tough, those people are usually hard to find.  It’s been said that once you grow older, if you can count the number of real friends on more than one hand, you are a very lucky person.   Trust me when I say that this is true.

    Value your real friends.  Don’t waste time with people who don’t respect you or who really don’t listen when you talk.  If you can’t be completely yourself in front of someone, then that person is not a real friend.  Put 100% into friendships that matter and don’t be fooled by people who give you any less.